I think I've narrowed it down.

I've decided that mostly, what I need to learn is that not everything works out.  I am the most extreme self critic to ever walk the face of this earth.  Anything less than perfect is hard for me to be proud of.  Maybe sometimes - just sometimes - I need to put down the finger of judgement and just be okay with that imperfection.

Three cheers for muted colors and filthy hair!